This photo pretty much depicts how our 1st term in this one of a kind school year started; with us looking over at Heinel in the background while he finds his bearings in the new environment that he is in.Our first few months of distance learning started a bit rough. Heinel was not only a first time high school student, he is also a transferee to a university that is very much different from his former school in many aspects. We are a bit lost at first. It was overwhelming. Moreover, the greatest challenge for this new learning setup is developing friendships; something very important to teens. Since there are no face-to-face interactions, it is not as easy for the kids to get to know each other. Being one of the “new kids” in class, Heinel felt a bit disconnected with his classmates. He felt awkward and out of place. He struggled to fit in. It came to a point when every school day was a heavy load to carry and he was always looking forward to the weekend. It was heartbreaking to witness.
As a parent of a Grade 7 student, we had often been reminded to give our kids some level of independence as they, after all, are now considered young men. This is easier said than done though. When you see your child struggle, you can not help but have the instinct to want to resolve things to make it easier for them. At one point I even asked my husband if we did the right thing of transferring him to a new school. Thoughts of pulling him out of the university run through my head. However, we realized that sheltering him from this experience will not help him at all. This is something thing that he has to go through to develop himself as a young man.
I am just glad that Heinel opened up to us about his struggles. This allowed us to talk things through as a family. Encouragement and support are crucial. We told him to hang on, pray, and give it some time. Eventually, friendships will happen and he will be able to adjust to the system.
Towards the end, I am SO glad that it all worked out. Heinel was able to develop friendships among peers. It was such a relief for us to hear him laugh while talking to his groupmates. He also got invited to join gaming groups among the class. A MAJOR HURDLE HAS BEEN SURPASSED! Thank God! Things got even better thereafter, he was able to adjust to the schedule and even had fun completing tasks with his classmates. I am so thankful to God that our son is way happier now.
I am sharing our story with the hope that those who are also having a tough time with the current situation can find light. Your struggles are valid. Hang on. Keep the faith. As what we told Heinel, do not look too far ahead. Take it one day at a time. Most of all, talk to someone; your family, your friends, your counselor. Asking for help does not mean weakness or defeat. Some battles can not be fought alone.
Second term officially begins tomorrow. We are optimistic and hopeful. Each day brings in new surprises and experiences. Keep yearning for life’s little surprises. Happy Sunday everyone!