For so long I’ve been wanting to write my thoughts about being a mom but for some reason I can not seem to find the write words, until today. As it is a day of honoring moms, allow me to honor and share what both of my sons have made me become for being their Mommy.
When I was young, I had this vision of the mom I should be. As I play with my dolls, I give them food, change their nappies, sing to them and give them lots of hugs. I envision motherhood as that simple. Mother teaches kids, and kids learn from mommies. I will teach my dolly everything she needs to learn about life like reading, crossing the street, and not to talking to strangers (because that is what my Mama tells me repeatedly). I teach. They listen always. Simple? Yeah, easy-peasy. Fast forward to many years after, I realized that it is not as simple as that.
Motherhood does not come with a manual nor does it come with a “one-size fits all tried and tested” methodology. Each kid, is different, thus, parenting style differs too. All those thoughts of what a mom should be changed and evolved to something better when my sons came into my life. It is a big responsibility that involves a lot of sleepless nights, shed and unshed tears, and heartaches when my kids are in pain. It is a beautiful experience that shaped me to become a better person while I nurture a life/lives to soon become their own person.
I used to worry how I will explain to EA the condition of his brother. I often wondered how I will explain to him cerebral palsy in such a way that his young mind will understand. I have all these worries for so long and I even researched topics about it. But later, I realized that just like anything, that moment of “the talk” will happen when my child is ready, and that he will come to me when he is.
It is when he was 7 and Little H was 3 when EA started asking questions. He begun his curiosity by comparing Little H with their cousins who are of the same age as his little brother. He asked why their cousins are walking and Little H is not; why their cousins are talking and why Little H is not. He asked the questions with so much innocence. I can see that he was trying to reconcile and make sense of everything. At that point, i knew, EA is ready.
We had been receiving a lot of inquiries about Japan and travelling in general. Today I will answer the frequently asked questions (FAQs) by you guys! But please note that all my answers are just base on my personal experience. I do not claim to be an expert traveller nor claims to know Japan really well.
After 4 days in Tokyo, we continued our Japan adventure in Osaka!
From Tokyo, we took a two-hour bullet train ride to Osaka. I have always been curious with how fast these popular trains of Japan are. Boy, it was really fast! Like we are zooming past everything!
Bullet train was a comfortable ride, even for the kids. The seat spaces are big, as well as the leg room. There are lavatories on both ends of the train. Most of the passenger have packed lunch and sandwiches that they ate on the train. But in case you do not have food with you, there are trolleys going around where you can buy snacks like sandwiches, chips, drinks and even ice cream!
TIP: In bullet trains, passengers are allowed to bring in only one cabin size luggage due to the limited space available. Thus, it is best to have your big luggage shipped from your location, for us, Tokyo to Osaka. Inquire to your hotel for these luggage transfers at a fee. It usually takes 24 hours for the luggage to arrive so make sure to pack in your bullet train luggage, your essentials and valuables as well as clothing for at least 48 hours.
In Tokyo, Daddy S and I were thinking of how we can include Mt. Fuji in our busy itinerary. But since it will not be anywhere near our planned places to visit, we decided to let go of the plan. But lucky for us, during the train ride, we passed by Mt Fuji! It was such a treat!
As year 2015 comes to a close, I can not help but look back on what this year has been to us. For me, it has been a year of milestones, achievements, adventures and new beginnings.
For our Sunday family activity, we decided to visit Dreamplay, an educational amusement center by Dream Works, located at City of Dreams in Manila. The amusement center mainly features well loved characters from Shrek, Madagascar, Kung Fu Panda and Dinotrux. Unlike most theme parks, Dreamplay does not have exciting rides or thrilling booths. But rather, they have different activities to awaken the mind and body of the kids and the kids-at-heart.
Below are some tidbits about our family experience, and some tips on how to make the most of your visit to Dreamplay.
“Oh my congratulations! That’s great! I wish I can be a stay at home mom too!”
This is what I constantly hear whenever I confirm that I am indeed quitting my job to be a full time mom. I know that not a lot of moms are given this as an option, and thus, I know that I am a lucky one. But still, the decision did not come easy, and my struggle made me feel guilty.
But please do not get me wrong. I love my kids. I adore them and I have always been a hands on mom. I call my kids from the office to check on them, ask about their assignments or just to simply say “hi”. I render absences (a lot) to accompany them to school activities or doctor’s checkups and therapies. Weekend seems so short to spend whole days with them. So it confused me as well when I got so restless with the idea of quitting my job. I mean, I should be excited, right? This is a dream for a lot of working moms, so how come I am not exactly jumping with glee? It was a year of deciding and then backing out because I had cold feet one too many times.
“Paano Ba Ito” , written by Filipino Celebrity, Biance Gonzalez, is a book that aims to serve as a guide for teenagers up to young adults on how to handle growing up issues. From the time it was released and even up to now, it remains to be among the best selling books in the country written by a Filipino author.
For my sheer love for books, I bought one and was surprised on how much I like it. It is a given that the book is for the younger generations, but for a parent, here are my reasons why you need to have it too: