May 14

Everything I learned from being a Mom..

For so long I’ve been wanting to write my thoughts about being a mom but for some reason I can not seem to find the write words, until today. As it is a day of honoring moms, allow me to honor and share what both of my sons have made me become for being their Mommy.

When I was young, I had this vision of the mom I should be. As I play with my dolls, I give them food, change their nappies, sing to them and give them lots of hugs. I envision motherhood as that simple. Mother teaches kids, and kids learn from mommies. I will teach my dolly everything she needs to learn about life like reading, crossing the street, and not to talking to strangers (because that is what my Mama tells me repeatedly). I teach. They listen always. Simple? Yeah, easy-peasy. Fast forward to many years after, I realized that it is not as simple as that.

Motherhood does not come with a manual nor does it come with a “one-size fits all tried and tested” methodology. Each kid, is different, thus, parenting style differs too. All those thoughts of what a mom should be changed and evolved to something better when my sons came into my life. It is a big responsibility that involves a lot of sleepless nights, shed and unshed tears, and heartaches when my kids are in pain. It is a beautiful experience that shaped me to become a better person while I nurture a life/lives to soon become their own person.
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January 20

Explaining Disability to my Child…

I used to worry how I will explain to EA the condition of his brother. I often wondered how I will explain to him cerebral palsy in such a way that his young mind will understand. I have all these worries for so long and I even researched topics about it. But later, I realized that just like anything, that moment of “the talk” will happen when my child is ready, and that he will come to me when he is.

It is when he was 7 and Little H was 3 when EA started asking questions. He begun his curiosity by comparing Little H with their cousins who are of the same age as his little brother. He asked why their cousins are walking and Little H is not; why their cousins are talking and why Little H is not. He asked the questions with so much innocence. I can see that he was trying to reconcile and make sense of everything. At that point, i knew, EA is ready.
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July 20

The Road to Being a SAHM

“Oh my congratulations! That’s great! I wish I can be a stay at home mom too!”

This is what I constantly hear whenever I confirm that I am indeed quitting my job to be a full time mom. I know that not a lot of moms are given this as an option, and thus, I know that I am a lucky one. But still, the decision did not come easy, and my struggle made me feel guilty.

Please do not get me wrong. I love my kids. I adore them and I have always been a hands on mom. I call my kids from the office to check on them, ask about their assignments or just to simply say “hi”. I render absences (a lot) to accompany them to school activities or doctor’s checkups and therapies. Weekend seems so short to spend whole days with them. So it confused me as well when I got so restless with the idea of quitting my job. I mean, I should be excited, right? This is a dream for a lot of working moms, so how come I am not exactly jumping with glee? It was a year of deciding and then backing out because I had cold feet one too many times.

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June 14

A Productive Summer

Today is officially the last weekend of summer vacation for EA. On Monday, school will resume and he will begin his new adventures in 2nd grade. But before we start school, here is what EA was up to during the summer.

Since last year, we had been wanting to enroll EA to Karate so he can learn martial arts. But we were not successful then because EA was so scared of the instructor. I guess he found him intimidating as his voice tends to get loud (but not shouting) whenever he teaches his students. EA also does not like the loud music being played during warm up. We thought he will get over it so we enrolled him but even after 3-4 attendance in class, EA still has not joined any drill and so we decided to cancel his enrollment.

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June 7

The Royal (Adorable) Siblings Photos Are Out!

Today was filled with so much cuteness when the The Royal Couple, Prince William and Duchess of Cambridge, Kate, release the official photos of their two children together!

I’ve been following Kensington Royal’s Instagram account and I was glued yesterday because in the morning it announced that they will release Prince George and Princess Charlotte’s photos. Well, I did not wait in vain because I was giggling with joy when I saw the photos!

Photo Credits: Her Royal Highness, Kate, Duchess of Cambridge

Photo Credits: Her Royal Highness, Kate, Duchess of Cambridge

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June 6

Singapore Vacation 2015

When I opened my blog site to write this post, I was surprised that it has been more than couple of weeks since I last posted an entry. I was not aware that it has been that long. I had been active but only to answer comments or queries which is probably why I did not notice that I have not updated quite that long.

Well, there is not better way to be back than write a post about our recent summer vacation! School is out for two months now and for quite some time we had been planning this trip with our two sons. It was their first time to go out of the country so we were very excited. I will share with you our experience and some tips as well on how we managed 5 days on tour with just the 4 of us (no nanny in tow!).

 

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